Squirting – All just a myth? Just a technique from porn movies? Not at all, if you believe the cultural scientist Stephanie Haerdle, for example, who dealt with this spicy topic in her book “Squirting. Geschichte der weiblichen Ejakulation” (Injecting: The History of Female Ejaculation).
She dealt with partly millennia-old texts of the Chinese and Indians, in which the female ejaculate was already described and classified as highly important.
“Man and woman were considered complementary, they complemented each other. So even sex was about complementing each other with one’s energies and with one’s juices. And one goal for the man was to get the woman to orgasm, that is, to give her so much pleasure that she could come and that she also ejaculated. Because this liquid was much more for the man; it was also medicine, it was something that satiated him, that could heal him. There are quite beautiful texts: A man who absorbs a lot of ejaculate through his penis, for example, his gray hair can turn black again,” the author says in an interview with Deutschlandfunk Nova.
In the course of time, however, knowledge about female ejaculation was lost, especially in the Western world. In the 18th and 19th centuries, people began to view women and men as something quite different, Haerdle says. As a result of this, as well as a growing understanding of procreation, women came to be seen more and more as childbearing machines who could, after all, become pregnant even without pleasure or orgasm.
Although female sexuality experienced an upswing in the late 20th century as a result of the women’s movement and the legendary G-spot was discovered, female ejaculation, or squirting as it is called in modern German, is still a taboo for many women and men. Yet love juice is a sign of eroticism, liberation and pleasure. So it’s high time to cut the old ties and get into squirting training.
Here you can listen to some passages from the book by Stephanie Haerdle.
What exactly does squirting mean?
Squirting means that a woman spurts out a mostly clear, water-like liquid from her urinary bladder in a controlled or uncontrolled manner during strong sexual arousal.
According to studies, this fluid consists of urea, uric acid, creatinine and mostly the antigen PSA (prostate specific antigen), which is also found in male semen. The fluid therefore initially resembles diluted urine and originates from the bladder. It is expelled from the urethra by the contractions of certain muscles in the pelvic floor area.
But where then does the antigen PSA come from? This is said to be produced by the paraurethral glands, also called Skene glands. These are located between the vagina and urethra and above the G-spot. The excretory ducts of the glands are located at the end as well as in the mucous membrane of the urethral opening. They secrete a fluid similar to the prostatic secretion of the male. Therefore, they are also called “female prostate”.
This is also supported by a study from 2011, in which female prostate tissue was detected in the laboratory; however, only in 14 of 25 samples. Also, the amount of milky fluid coming from these glands was said to be very small.
Attention: A precise distinction must be made here, because squirting refers only to the squirting of a large amount of fluid from the urethra triggered by muscle force. Whether the secretion of the Skene glands is included or not is irrelevant. If, on the other hand, only the secretion of the glands involuntarily runs out of the urethra, we speak of “female ejaculation”. These are two different processes, but they can also coincide.
Although female ejaculation was already described by Aristotle and received new attention through the discovery of the G-spot, the topic is still very controversial.
Some scientists believe the process is a myth, while others say squirting is simply the squirting out of urine.
Still other experts believe that the fluid comes solely from Skene’s glands and that women can ejaculate as well.
Some researchers, on the other hand, speak of coital incontinence. Thus, intensive research is still needed in this field. However, it can’t hurt to try.
Squirting – A guide
Below you will find some tips and tricks on how to make squirting work for you. However, keep in mind that every woman is different. Some find it easy to ejaculate, while others find it difficult to let go and always try to control their juices. Also, not every woman finds squirting particularly hot and exciting.
It’s best to try it out on your own. If it works and you like it, you can let your partner join in the next time.
1. avoid flooding – prepare your bed
When squirting, a large amount of fluid, women reported about 60 ml, can squirt out of you. So if you’re up for a particularly wet erotic adventure, it’s best to cover your bed with towels or special pads beforehand. You can also try squirting in the bathtub or shower.
2. brainstorm – free yourself from negative thoughts.
“Will I pee?”, “will it smell unpleasant?”, “how does my vagina look when I squirt?”, “should I make the bed fresh again?” – Even with the ancient Chinese and Indians, squirting was about one thing: female pleasure.
It’s not about how far you can squirt, how much fluid comes out of your urethra, how you look when you cum, or how the ejaculate smells and what it actually is. You should simply feel free, let go of all worries and feelings of shame and love your body.
Therefore: Negative thoughts, shame, guilt, disgust, fear, pressure, nervousness or similar feelings have no place in squirting. When it comes, it comes.
So try to put yourself in a positive, relaxed mood before the wet event. For example, you can meditate, dance or perform an erotic self-hypnosis. Also, make your room especially beautiful, light candles and put on your favorite music. Also, say goodbye to the idea that you absolutely have to squirt or come to orgasm.
3. atmospheric – get yourself going
Although squirting is not always accompanied by an awesome orgasm, it does require a high level of arousal to create a fountain of pleasure. At first, however, you don’t have to aim to squirt in a high arc. First of all, get yourself going with tried and tested techniques. If you like and feel free enough, you can also get your partner to join in.
For example, try the following:
- Let your partner massage you.
- Watch an erotic movie that really turns you on.
- Pamper your clitoris with a pressure wave vibrator or massage wand.
- Stimulate your vagina with a vagina pump
- If you’re into that: massage your anal area with anal vibrators, anal dildos, or other anal toys.
- Take care of your other erogenous zones like your breasts, nipples, lips or thighs.
4. on the trail – find your G-spot.
In a study dating back to 1981, a woman reported that she often lost a lot of fluid during orgasm. She interpreted this phenomenon as incontinence. Later, she learned to control her bladder through pelvic floor exercises.
In doing so, she realized that there was a female ejaculation and that the loss of fluid was accompanied by stimulation of the so-called G-spot. If the Gräfenberg zone was stimulated, this also led to more intense, deeper climaxes, according to her.
Other sex experts also made a connection between G-spot massage and female ejaculation. This makes sense, since the Skene glands are located just above the G-spot.
So after you are already very aroused, you should take care of your G-spot. This is located just a few centimeters from the vaginal entrance on the upper vaginal wall. To find the zone, you can insert your index finger about four centimeters deep into your vagina and then push it towards your belly button. Now you should feel a slightly textured surface as well as a pleasant sensation.
Once you have found your G-spot, you can stimulate it with light circular movements, for example. You can also use tools like finger vibrators or G-spot stimulators. It is important that you apply enough pressure to the G-spot. If you notice that you are starting to feel like you have to urinate, you should move your finger or sex toy back and forth faster and faster.
Tip: It is best to use lubricant for G-spot stimulation, regardless of whether you use your finger or a G-spot vibrator.
5. release blockades – just let go
Now we come to the most exciting part: As soon as you notice that a big pressure builds up in your pelvic floor area, you have the feeling that you have to make pee-pee and almost can’t hold on to yourself anymore, then the great moment of squirting has come. Now turn off your head and use your pelvic floor muscles to squirt the pent up fluid out of your urethra. Enjoy the feeling of freedom and allow yourself to come to an orgasm you will remember at the same time.
If you need more inspiration – squirting is vividly described in this video.
What if it doesn’t work?
A summary of various studies suggests that the frequency of female ejaculation is between 10 and 54%. Moreover, it was found that ejection of fluid is not typical of female orgasms. Furthermore, only the frequency in the ten percent range would be based on objective evidence, but the higher percentages would have come primarily from subjective surveys.
So, the phenomenon of squirting is still hotly debated and even though many women report their squirting successes and the net is full of squirt porn, not every woman can ejaculate – and that’s perfectly ok! Nevertheless, don’t give up right away if your first attempts fail. The following additional tips may bring you closer to your goal.
6. shaking – take the pressure off and try again.
Please do not put yourself under pressure. Squirting is just one of many pleasurable ways to play. So if it doesn’t work for you, that’s certainly no reason for frustration. However, if you really want to experience what it feels like to get more than wet during orgasm, there’s only one thing that will help: practice, get to know your body even better and push the right buttons. Under certain circumstances, explanatory videos, guides or seminars may help you to dive deeper into the topic.
7. trained – use your pelvic floor muscles
Since your pelvic floor muscles are used during squirting, they should be sufficiently trained. Strong pelvic floor muscles not only help control the bladder and make contractions possible during arousal and orgasm, they also promote blood flow to the genital area, making it more sensitive to stimulation. Through a trained pelvic floor you can trigger an exciting interplay of tension and relaxation and increase your arousal to infinity.
8. change positions – try out different positions
If the G-spot massage is done by your partner’s penis or by a strap-on dildo, then a change of position often helps to create an erotic gush of fluid.
For example, try positions like the riding position, so that you can determine the insertion angle of the penis or dildo yourself. Sometimes it is also effective if your partner pulls out his/her penis/dildo during lovemaking and makes you squirt while standing, sitting or lying down with quick finger movements, because this allows for more targeted G-spot stimulation.
Just try out several positions and angles!
9. african technique – get familiar with Kunyaza
Maybe the African technique “Kunyaza” will help you to squirting happiness. For this you should grab a person with a penis or a not too hard dildo. If your partner is on board, here’s what happens:
Your partner uses lubricant and inserts his penis into you.
Now he pulls his penis out of your vagina and takes it between two fingers.
Then he taps rhythmically on your vulva, i.e. on your clitoris and labia.
In between he pushes the tip of his penis into you again and again and stimulates your G-spot.
He repeats this procedure for quite some time until you squirt.
10. loving communication – talk to your partner
You may not be able to squirt because you are ashamed of your partner or you are afraid that he/she will find your body fluids repulsive. So if you want to try squirting together with your partner, talk to him/her beforehand. As with all sexual play, loving and understanding communication is a key element that helps both partners have fun and feel comfortable.
As a woman, you should … express your sexual desires openly and tell your partner that you would like to try squirting. Explain to him/her what exactly it is and how he/she can help or stimulate you. It’s also best to mention that this is not pee play.
As a man, you should … encourage your partner to let her excitement run free. However, refrain from porno talk a la “Come on baby, squirt!”. Also, if you get excited watching your girlfriend squirt, learn how to stimulate a woman’s G-spot.
Do men see squirting as a positive thing?
You might be wondering if it could turn your partner off when a sudden gush of water comes out of your intimate zone. In the course of an online survey with 320 participants from all over the world, all of whom already had experience with female ejaculation, it came out that 90% of the partners of the respondents considered squirting to be an enrichment for their joint sex life. 4.4% of the partners didn’t know that their beloved has the potential to squirt, so only 5.6% of the men judged female ejaculation as something negative.
So you see, squirting is not rejected by most gentlemen at all. However, if your lover should react “strangely”, then explain to him that it is completely natural and an expression of your excitement and desire.
Conclusion – A wet gush of excitement or all smoke and mirrors?
That women can squirt a mysterious liquid from their urethra has been undisputed since ancient times. However, what kind of fluid it is, what triggers squirting and how many women can enjoy this wet form of play is uncertain. The female ejaculation is and remains a tingling secret, which you can discover for yourself – water march!